Love. Lose. Learn.

Virginia Wolf once said " I can only note that the past is beautiful because one never realises an emotion at the time. It expands later, and thus we don't have complete emotions about the present, only about the past."

My friend S, was recently left by her 6-year partner. She came me, eyes red and puffy, tears bursting, heart aching. She was wounded, the saddness seeping out of her heart, invading every emotion in her body...She could not understand, how love could be so cruel, how men could be so cal less. Her grief lasted for 2 months, until she was finally confident enough to accept that things had ended. To celebrate her new found strength, we had lunch, were she talked to me about the high and lows of their affair, and how their relationship had slowly deteriorated.
"Looking back on the whole, thing, it seems it wasnt all roses and smiles, as it seemed to be to me at first..This handsome man walked into my life, and i feel in love, or did i...Maybe it was only a childish infatuation, or maybe it was just a brief moment of vanity. "

The truth is, often we dont see things as they are until the moment becomes the present, and you have time to ponder on the events, and reframe your emotions, or understand them more clearly. The hardest thing for people to do, is develop emotions...real emotions about things....It seems it is much easier, to follow the ritual of being infatuated in love.
As Virgina says, the past is powerful, and also beautiful thing. It a teacher for the present, and a lesson for the future.



looking back on love.
xx zee :]